Can I just take a moment to rant about how absolutely ridiculous it is to insist that this is my wedding...but that I'm going about it all wrong & ruining my family's lives in the process? I love my family, I do (we've been through this) but I am so sick of being made to feel guilty for everything. I have been relatively accommodating throughout this process- there have only been a few major factors that I would not budge on:- I wanted a great photographer and we were lucky enough to find them.
- I want a great DJ and we're working on that.
- I want an adult only reception because we can't possibly afford to feed everyone and their kids.
- I do not want anyone there that can not share our joy in our marriage including exes, back-stabbing friends and- if need be- family members.
I do not feel bound to invite anyone. We are scraping together a miracle to fund our dream wedding and I want the day to be every bit as wonderful as I imagine. I won't compromise my own happiness or sanity because someone who can't stand me should be invited. Going back to my two year old days, it's just not fair. I consider myself a pretty easy going person, I choose my battles, but I won't feel guilty for setting aside one day to indulge in my own happiness. I just want to have a great day. I don't want to stress that there's someone who can't even stand me floating amidst my reception. I don't' want to think that there's anyone in the room that doesn't fully support my union with my husband and yet, if I cave in to the pressure I'm feeling, that will be exactly the scenario. I hate to sound so forceful on the subject, and AJ has been such a good sport about listening to me rant & rave on this topic many times, but I have been engaged for 6 months. If anyone hasn't found it in their heart to talk to me about it by now (or talk to me at all for that matter), we probably don't need to celebrate my wedding together- family or not.
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